‘When I first got with my partner we were at it all of the time, trying new moves and weren’t afraid of anything! I was f***ing him in the trees when we realised there were loads of men in the bushes watching us.’ And finally: The one who broke his penis… ‘I hooked up with a guy and we went to the park after opening hours. Man who had penis on arm for six years finally has it attached between legs The people watchers… ‘Thank goodness I was fortunate and never picked up an infection or was raped or murdered.’
‘I know if I let myself succumb to my own desires, I get pulled into a spiralling circling of thoughts and actions that led me to make decisions that placed my wife’s health and my health in danger. Today, I am living my amends to her by being faithful and placing my sex life on to a spiritual plane. ‘To my knowledge, she is completely unaware. ‘The worst of it all, through my actions, I put my wife’s health in jeopardy with my affairs. ‘I’m not proud of these experiences, some were good and fun, some I put myself into danger, and all in all I carry a lot of shame. ‘I was with men, women, men and women at the same time, with cross-dressers, and have cross dressed myself. For me, it all centred around being pursued and pursuing others, it was never about the sex itself. ‘All of my wild sex escapades were in the midst of my disease and not with my wife. (Picture: Ella Byworth for .uk) The one whose experience happened during a time of alcoholism… With the sound of alarms and explosions we continued to go at it as though the world were about to end. ‘The vehicles being a very safe place to be we kept going. As we were having sex, which was amazing, the camp came under attack from both mortar and 107mm rockets. ‘We snuck into my Warrior and disabled the power so the hydraulic door wouldn’t open. We arranged to meet near the phones and then make our way to one of the Warrior armoured fighting vehicles. ‘We made a plan to do it covertly elsewhere. ‘We’d had some heavy petting my last night in the medical centre but it was too risky to go further as the Doc and the medics slept in there. ‘So any relationship was a military crime on two levels, she was an officer, I wasn’t. I connected with a nurse, who was a commissioned officer, Captain, and I was a JNCO, Corporal. ‘I’d been injured and was kept in the medical centre for observation for 48 hours. We climbed into the back and I lasted less than a minute.’ That time in Iraq… ‘By the time we got there I was ready to explode. The guy said he thought someone was being attacked.’ It turns out we woke a small village just outside the forest. ‘We were interrupted by a torch shining on the tent. ‘In a tent… my ex and I were wild camping and obviously decided to have some fun, I don’t know if it was the risk of being “outdoors” but we were definitely a bit louder and friskier. It was early evening the sun was setting, but still light enough for a lot of cars to toot their horns to let us know they’d seen us!’ The one who got caught… ‘We jumped out and passion got the better of us so we had the most incredible sex right there on the grass bank next to the M1. ‘The couple in the front were completely unaware of anything that we were doing in the back of their car and, when we approached Leicester, the guy driving just pulled over onto the hard shoulder instead of of leaving the motorway. On the way back, Sally started becoming, shall we say, amorous, in the back of the car that had kindly given us a lift. ‘Being poor students we had hitchhiked down there and back. We have done it with a handful of different people and she has also been with someone while I’m not present.’ ‘Over the years that evolved towards dipping our toes in to the water, so to speak, and eventually to the point where she was as keen as me to try. In the beginning it was “this is just a fantasy, we shouldn’t risk it”.
‘She has always been keen on the idea but sensibly wary about damaging a relationship. With my wife, as we have been together for 10 years, it has been something that is “there” for ages. ‘I’ve had partners just shut that down and say its not their thing (I’d never try to be pushy about this kind of thing) and others who’d be up for dabbling. ‘For most of my adult life I have found that when I am in a relationship for quite a while then I become fixated on the idea of sharing my partner with other men. I’ve also been in a gangbang.’ The one who likes to share… ‘Went to a Naturist Spa in Kentish Town and banged a 47 year old in a steam room.